Monday, September 3, 2012

Angry words...


THE LULU CHRONICLES

My late afternoon bike ride with LuLu had me thinking about relationships. I have been blessed by many dear people in my life. However, as I was pedaling on my pink bike on this hot, cloudy afternoon I was thinking what would it take to destroy a friendship or build a wall between a loved one and me. I didn’t have to think too hard.

Have you ever wanted to bite your tongue right off because of something you said in anger?  I'm constantly amazed at the abundant amount of stupidity I am capable of in a heated moment. 

My anger can cause me to shoot darts through hearts.  I search and grope for words that are meant to hurt. I am Ninja-like when it comes to insults. When they hit their mark, ka-boom! I’m amazing. I'm also instantly ashamed of my actions and that wicked justification I feel for one brief moment. If not kept in check, our anger makes us irrational.  It can get us to turn on those we love in an instant. And, if you’re like me a misunderstood word or an innocent jab temps us to breath fire and singe all in my wake.

Is it ever 'just' to hurt anyone by our angered words?  What kind of victory is it when you stand alone in a lake of ashes?  And, what can be done after the words have been hurled and the victim is wounded?

Two and a half of the toughest words to utter are "I'm sorry".  They can set you up and make you vulnerable for a counter attack.  But, if they are not spoken, the wound inflicted could be fatal.  The uncontrolled word shouted in a flame of anger can ruin all that you hold precious and destroy dreams leaving devastation in its stead.

Think about it.  There is no victory in ashes.

Later,
deb

6 comments:

Joyce Montgomery said...

Deb,
I am so amazed when I read your blogs... Some of them hit really close to home. I find myself lookin for your blogs. I never knew I had a cousin writer. I have your books ordered, so I am setting here on pins an needles waiting on them to arrive. I love an miss you an Gary.
Joyce Cleveland Montgomery

Joyce Montgomery said...

Deb,
I am so amazed when I read your blogs... Some of them hit really close to home. I find myself lookin for your blogs. I never knew I had a cousin writer. I have your books ordered, so I am setting here on pins an needles waiting on them to arrive. I love an miss you an Gary.
Joyce Cleveland Montgomery

Joyce Montgomery said...

Deb,
I am so amazed when I read your blogs... Some of them hit really close to home. I find myself lookin for your blogs. I never knew I had a cousin writer. I have your books ordered, so I am setting here on pins an needles waiting on them to arrive. I love an miss you an Gary.
Joyce Cleveland Montgomery

Joyce Montgomery said...

Deb,
I am so amazed when I read your blogs... Some of them hit really close to home. I find myself lookin for your blogs. I never knew I had a cousin writer. I have your books ordered, so I am setting here on pins an needles waiting on them to arrive. I love an miss you an Gary.
Joyce Cleveland Montgomery

Joyce Montgomery said...

Deb,
I am so amazed when I read your blogs... Some of them hit really close to home. I find myself lookin for your blogs. I never knew I had a cousin writer. I have your books ordered, so I am setting here on pins an needles waiting on them to arrive. I love an miss you an Gary.
Joyce Cleveland Montgomery

The LuLu Chronicles said...

Joyce, thank for your kind words. I try. It's something I love to do. I'm finishing my fifth book, hopefully this fall. So stay tuned...
deb